Planning…I am learning that planning while carrying a child is difficult! I used to take pride on knowing what I was making for dinner throughout the week, now I don’t know what I want to eat for breakfast let alone lunch and dinner. I am actually enjoying the craving part of the process as I am trying new foods that would never appeal to me before….but, I digress….
Last weekend Gregory and I had big plans. Saturday was supposed to be “get the extra storage day” and move all the boxes out of our apartment, followed by a night out with friends and then head up to the mountains on Sunday. It was supposed to be a late “Celebration” for my birthday since we really couldn’t do anything a few weeks before with the morning sickness etc… needless to say NONE of this happened.
Turns out my pregnant body had different plans. On Saturday morning, Gregory heads out to run with his training group and I get to head out with my itunes and do my own sort of “run” thing around a little loop by our house (will plenty of opportunities for pit stops!). I have been keeping active throughout the pregnancy, alternating no impact activity with jogging (I have a hard time referring to my running as “actual” running) and have had no problems. Of course this is something everyone needs to check with their doctors (mine cleared running at 7 weeks). When I returned home after a really good run I was in total shock to find that I was spotting…
I don’t think I have ever been so panicked or worried in my entire life. First thing I did was call my doctor who was on call; I had to wait 10 minutes for her to call me back, it seemed like an eternity. During those 10 minutes I cried and realized how important this baby was to me. Everyone hears of the “mother’s love” and how it is a magic thing you somehow acquire when you have your own baby. It’s true….
Gregory returned home from his run to find me a shaking, mumbling mess and I got out enough to let him know what had happened when the doctor called. To make a long story short, because it was the weekend, I would have to go to the ER for any sort of “medical” treatment. But, she told me that whatever it was could probably wait (unless the symptoms got worse) as it is extremely rare for a miscarriage to happen this far along and that anything that was causing the bleeding could wait till Monday because there is nothing they really could do in the mean time. Um ok….I feel so much better….So there I was, panicked, and told not to move for the rest of the weekend until Monday. Monday could not be further away….
Next step was to cancel any plans we had. I only ended up telling a handful of people what happened as I didn’t want to cause a big stir; and did my best to put myself into the doctors shoes when describing “it probably is nothing” when every bad scenario was going through my head. And, poor Gregory being the “rock” through this process, checking in on me and making sure I had enough “movies , food, water..pretty much anything!” too keep me going.
Four hours later my phone rings and it was my doctor calling to check-in and tell me she had a bunch of deliveries so why don’t I come in so they could hear the baby’s heart beat. I swear, this was one of the kindest acts anyone has done for me. Here was this doctor, on call, between 3 deliveries (turned out she had been up all night the previous night) thinking to call me to come in ON THE WEEKEND to calm my nerves and make sure the baby was ok.
Of course Gregory and I sped to the hospital and within 10 minutes we heard the “thu-thump, thu-thump” loud and clear. I have never, ever felt such a large rush of relief!
For the record, Boulder Women’s Care is awesome! Gregory and I feel so comfortable with the kind, knowledgeable and patient staff and doctors.
This did not mean we were out of the woods. I was still on “bed-rest” till Monday when they could check out what was going on (as it Is not normal) but I was definitely put at ease hearing the baby’s heartbeat.
Cut to the chase, Monday rolls around and Boulder Women’s Care gets me in for a morning appointment (once again, great service when they are a busy clinic) with one of the doctors I have seen already. I am ready for the news “it was the running”…or “you overdid it”…because trust me, I had heard enough of that already (gotta love unsolicited advice from those who believe it is their God given right to tell you what to do but have no medical knowledge to back their opinions). But, instead I got:”You are healthy and the baby is fine, however, you have an infection.” Yes folks, I have spent hours on end on a bike with sweaty bike shorts soaked in chamois cream and I have never had a yeast infection. Until I got knocked up! As humorous as it may sound, we are very lucky we caught it early as these can turn into more serious bacterial infections. Apparently yeast infections are very common once you are pregnant and can re-occur easily..sigh…and I thought the second trimester was the “honeymoon period.”
Now, here comes the brutal honest part of things. Gregory spent the rest of the day picking up the pieces of “Erin”. You would think that I would be ecstatic that everything was ok , the baby was fine and that it was just a “yeast infection.” But to me it was so much more. After spending 3 months sick as a dog, emotionally and physically drained, on a hormonal rollercoaster, realizing that some people will never be there for you like you want, only to enter the 2nd trimester with a yeast infection was a bit too much. The weekend traumatized me….but, heck that is what friends are for, right?
Trust me, I have some GREAT friends. I had emails and calls from those who knew what was going on to just see “how I was doing”. My awesome friend Laura came over Sunday afternoon while I was pondering away time just to “visit.” You have no idea how important such an act of kindness is. When you become pregnant, you world changes and you have a bunch of insecurities such as how your friends will “react to you” when you get hormonal and huge. Also, if they will accept your life changes; with few exception, my friends have been outstanding! A few even surprise me!
I think one of the most touching moments this week though was after Gregory talked to my Mother-in-law Joelle and Auntie-in-law Claude to let them know the news and there was nothing to worry about. Well, my email box filled with French messages from both Claude and Joelle to hear the news straight from me and then a message on my phone Wednesday afternoon from Joelle “wanting to see how I was.” When your MIL stays up late to leave you a message in English (when she speaks French) because she is concerned, you know you are extremely fortunate! These kind gestures warm my heart and when everything feels so overwhelming and out of control, I am reminded that I have an amazing support system.
It has been a week since these events transpired and I am almost as good as new! As for the baby, well “it” is fine/great./super/awesome/perfect….Ok, so I have to say it; Gregory and I are a little confused about the “how’s the baby” question. Of course the baby is fine and healthy, but sometimes it is like “well, I don’t know, it’s not like we have had a conversation today or I have met the little dude face-to-face”. I think Gregory sums it up best in his blog:
http://www.pyramedium.com/gm/details.aspx?uid=246
Which is much shorter, more concise and a lot funnier!
All I can tell you about our baby now, is that scientifically it Is larger than a baseball, it makes me hungry, I am growing a little pot-belly, it makes me hungry, it has not started kicking yet but in 2-3 weeks I should feel it, and oh…did I say it makes me hungry??
Tuesday I have the clear to get back to aerobic activity; including swimming, elliptical, weights, and running…YES, that’s right, running. There is no scientific evidence to support running has a direct correlation to yeast infections (that is unless you wear the same pair of unwashed sweaty spandex to run in for a week straight!). Does that mean I will go back to running? Honestly, I don’t know, I am still pretty shaken up about the whole thing, BUT if I DO;I swear I will go postal on the next person who tells me to “stop running” as if this whole series of events was MY fault! There you have it, I am putting my foot down…this is the one piece of unsolicited advice that I will not just “shut-up and take.” And for the record, I have my doctor’s support on this decision.
On a more positive note, and a little hint for my next post, Pamela’s Products has demonstrated their amazing support once again and allowed me to stay on the Pamela’s team through my pregnancy! I have a gluten-free bun in the oven. More great news about Pamela’s and great gluten free recipes for the pregnant lady in my next post!
Cheers!